You cannot fully receive pleasure if you are worried about your belly, your scars, your size, or your smell. Body shame is a lid on your libido. Positive sexuality requires a truce with your body. Start by naming one thing your body does well for you (not for a partner).
So here is your closing manifesto:
One of the most effective pieces of advice in any advanced guide is to discuss sex when you aren't having it. Trying to navigate complex desires or fix a mismatch in libido in the heat of the moment can be disastrous. A positive approach involves "The Check-In." This is a scheduled or routine conversation where partners discuss their intimacy in a safe, non-sexual environment. Lovers and Sex Guide - 37 - Sexuality and Posi...